Type Three

This is a house level conflict. Three or more parties are involved. It is negatively Affecting the environment at the house.

Discussing Conflict as a House

Any housemate, at any time, can add the conflict to the agenda for a house meeting. Do your best to ensure that all members involved in the conflict are aware that the discussion is happening. 

Follow the typical guidelines for your house meetings, perhaps adding a few others (such as additional person on “vibes”, or an agreement around confidentiality and “I statements”) given the tense nature of the discussion. 

Make sure that one housemate, ideally someone less involved in the conflict, will be taking clear thorough notes that are shared with the entire house and the committee on cooperation. 

Outside mediators, either professionals or trained residents from other houses, can be requested to support the house-wide discussion. 

The house should work towards a written agreement that is consented to by all parties – both those directly involved and the rest of the house. The written agreement should follow the “SMART” guidelines (specific, measurable, actionable, realistic, time-bound). 

The written agreement should be emailed to the house and to the committee on cooperation. 

If the house cannot come to an agreement, or the agreement is broken, the committee on cooperation should be informed at once and begin a member review process. 

You can find more specific guidelines about discussing conflict at a house-meeting here.

At any point in the process, housemates are encouraged to email cooperation@bhccoops.org describing the personal impact that this issue has had on them. Ideally these reports come in over time, when the conflicts first take place, rather than all at once after things have reached a tipping point. It is especially important to include any objective documentations such as labor reports from the labor steward, rent reports from the accountants, house meeting minutes where the whole house discussed the issue, or documented instances of attempted restorative conversations.

 

If three submissions of uncooperative behavior are received by the committee on cooperation, or if the committee feels that the conflict warrants it, a member review will be initiated. The specifics of the member review are outlined in our Mediation and Member Review handbooks. The committee will conclude the member review with a clear list of written agreements that the housemate must uphold by particular dates, and clearly states the consequences of not upholding that agreement – usually lease termination or an agreement of non-renewal.