Type One Conflict
This is a "normal" "healthy" confrontation. You feel safe to approach and dialogue with whomever you are in conflict with.
Ground Z E R O
I like to consider robust mental health support “ground zero” of the conflict resolution process. Do the self-work necessary to show up for your community, especially in conflict. Reach out to supportive friends, family, and especially mental health professionals.
Invest the time in intentionally building trust with your housemates by collaborating on house projects, participating in meetings, and having fun together. Cultivating awareness, mindfulness, compassion, and trust during peaceful times is the best way we can prepare for hard times.
A Beginners Guide to Restorative Conversations
In this accessible manual to restorative conversations, generously provided for us by Longmont Restorative Justice Partners, you will find a simple break down of how to go about initiating a conversation with a housemate. The guide includes includes worksheets to prepare for a restorative conversation and guidelines on how to come up with effective agreements.
Professional mental health support
If you qualify to live in a BHC co-op, you likely qualify for free or discount therapy. Check it out!
- Naropa community counseling
- The Umbrella Collective
- Evolve in Nature
- Integrating Insights
- Whole Connection
- Boulder Emotional Wellness
Additional resources:
- Feelings List
- Needs List
- Self-Reflection worksheet prior to a restorative conversation
- Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet – Sometimes we need to get crystal clear about what and why something is upsetting us, because we can move past it! This worksheet helps you to get it out!
- Transforming Judgements
Outside Community Resources to develop our healthy communication skills:
- Longmont Community Justice Partners
The brilliant organization that helped create our mediation process, offers trainings, and supports member reviews - Restorative Justice Colorado
- A O R T A – anti-oppression training
- Rocky Mountain Compassionate Communication Network
Virtual and in-person classes and practice groups around Colorado, rooted in nonviolent communication - Right Use of Power
Classes and online trainings in understanding and navigating power dynamics in relationships - Spring Up
Classes and online trainings in consent and collective liberation - Boulder County Alcoholic’s Anonymous
Free confidential support groups for people who struggle with substance abuse AND for the people who love someone who struggles with substance abuse - Fearless Heart
A brilliant, free, self-based online training in compassionate communication Nonviolent Communication Hotline
Videos of leading NVC teachers role-playing real life conflicts.
